Wednesday 27 April 2016

The family holiday

Day 98...#100daysofhappiness #100happydays

Travel, photographs, writing are my strong de-stress weapons. Sitting on my computer, I travel the world and often find new itineraries that give me wings any time. So vacations means - holiday time! Everyone said, so did Facebook stories - going with kids - Hong Kong is the place! Photographs do tell stories, but is it always the real picture! Quoting an Asian proverb, "Better to see something once than to hear about it a thousand times". So the destination was finalized!

Come summer, travel plans had to be etched, and in my mind, I knew that before I embark my kids on an India travel experience for the next 5 years, I wanted them to experience the Disneyland for young ones that we had heard so much about. As much as it meant to be a story for them to explore, I was more keen on visiting a dream that I had grown up with... taking that iconic picture with Mickey Mouse! The ease of access and proximity to a country in Asia itself, made it a lot more inviting knowing that royal hospitality was a given. Given our experience in all other Asian countries, we had our expectations set! If you are a travel and photo buff as much as I am then here is a small travel recommendation: please use a selfie stick -  the ease to capture our family time all in one frame was possible only with this selfie stick without seemingly harassing people around for taking those clicks

As we embarked on this journey long enough to soak in the sights, sounds and smell of Hong Kong and Macau, while short enough to not get home sick, we had packed and planned our itinerary to almost perfection! The flights are always entertaining for kids with the movies galore that keep them up and charged, while the food and drinks makes it a perfect 'no veggie' moment.

Macau's grandeur is not under stated and probably worth it to soak in the enthusiasm with which folks throng there to visit the world's largest casino - The Venetian or for that pulsating bungee jump, again the world's highest bungee point, which has left me wanting to come back again to take that plunge. Its not so much for children but hotels like where we stayed at the Sheraton Grand, they do try little things that hope to keep the curious minds engaged with a Madagascar parade or Shrekfast!

Hong Kong - a projected party destination and perhaps shoppers paradise, has skyscrapers that are unimpressive during the day. The glitz of lights conceals the ugliness of the buildings. Unlike other Asian countries, the buildings here are unimpressive and perhaps reveal the age of the structure with its poor exteriors. Having said that, the people here are charming and welcoming compared to their Chinese counterparts, which I was personally miffed about the last time I went to China. They understand the sense of space, boundaries and respect. Each to their own, yet happy to help when asked. The system has a clear and reliable administration, which people are so proud of. Police is there as a problem solver and not to penalize that even kids know that the touch of 999 will help them when no one else can. People work hard all their lives to make ends meet and dreams come true with the owning of a small piece of real estate, which accordingly to the locals, if you have a house, girls will be ready to marry. So as late as 40 or 45, people are tying the knot and embracing a new phase of life. With real estate prices skyrocketing, owning a shop will make you rich for life, with high rentals. They hate corruption, cheating and counterfeiting hence Chinese and Indians are not perhaps their favorite, but they don't make it obvious. While some Indian's there have established their presence, there are others not worthy a mention, who seem to tarnish the image of a country that should have been held in high esteem with sale of fake items, robbery and extortion in the most surprising way.

If one has to be thrilled about sights of Hong Kong, there is nothing that might be fitting enough to be entered in a travelogue, apart from the harbor, the tram ride up Victoria peak, the SamBan ride in the fishing village, the beaches, and the method in the madness of night markets. While it misses a glorious history, so the stories are made by the people who thrive. We had a comfortable ride, so the public transport could not be tested, but we did hear great things about it! With no manufacturing credits, and mostly import driven, hoping for a price advantage to shop would be an unfair deal. Nevertheless the negotiations at the night markets are fun and gets you back for more. As we were in the midst of all the action in TST at Holiday Inn Golden Mile, food options are plenty. A note here, that even the McD, KFC and Pizza Hut have their specialties prepared by their chef's which were lip smacking. The weather is sporadic so a perfectly planned holiday can get dampened with rains and thunder showers. But nothing seems to slow anyone down.. they move on with the opening of an umbrella... two days later, we learnt to expect the unexpected and with handy's guidance on sights, maps and must do's (the smartphone - a compliment of our hotel for our use) and an umbrella, we moved on! Our plan to visit Stanley and the 3D museum had to be shelved due to the weather unfortunately.
Disneyland was perhaps not everything we hoped for and that was a bit disappointing for me, though kids were mighty thrilled. With my resolve to meet Micky Mouse, I along with the many hundreds queued up for hours together, for that photograph while the kids were trying for opportunities with other character meet and greets which were available on a limited basis, hence many missed moments or no shows perhaps. While they were saddened to miss meeting Judy Hopps of Zootopia after 4 attempts, they were thrilled to meet Princess Sofia. The search for Anna and Elsa of Frozen was never ending, and as we were prepared to 'Let it go' we finally spotted  them along with all the characters of Disney books in a stage performance in the Wonderous book show! The rides here are enjoyable for little kids, so makes it fun. The shows, the jungle safari were fabulous and made us visit as many shows as we could, with each one fascinating in a new way - futuristic, concepts, entertaining and perfect. We got to see the celebrations of HK Disneyland's 10th anniversary, so the grandeur and charm with held its image. Food options are limited and perhaps not worthy a mention apart from the use of mickey shaped food options for kids. Travelling with kids and hoping to bypass that pricey Disney gift shop is an impossible task, so we had to make that regretful stop. The deed was done and the plug out just got tougher. The queues for all character meets, rides and shows demands tremendous patience, which we thankfully had braced with. While a full park tour can be done with the train, the zone exploration has to be on foot and with 2 children of 7 and 5 years, they did not seem happy to bask the sun and sudden rain. My pedometer turned handy and tracked our steps, turning out we clocked 13 kms doing the rounds here in Disneyland... so do use your imagination on the foot massages we dreamt about. The rain was a mood dampener as both the parades were cancelled, but the concluding Disney in the stars fireworks show, made our hearts come alive on the backdrop of the castle. That was truly magical and something I might always remember Disneyland for! We were exhausted yet we smiled, we knew that the child in each of us were thrilled with a dream that came true - we were in Disneyland and that's what mattered!

With chocolates being our last stop, we were ready to come back. Kids were thrilled and waiting to pour out their news back home. Content with their goodies, and attempting a sometimes graphic or worded journal, they knew they had a story to tell. Like they say, of all the books in the world, the best stories are found in the pages of a passport. While its not my recommendation as a holiday destination for the travelling soul, but if you have traveled the rest of the world, then you can consider stopping by here! While Hong Kong did not live upto its hype, it perhaps gave us our 'ideal' family holiday.  Sipping of coffee on top of Victoria Peak, as we overlooked everything Hong Kong was about through the glass walls of the hill top coffee shop, while kids binged on hot chocolate and cookies, we felt a sense of calm! We had our time together, without schedules, joy in little things, learning's of new cultures and an aspiration to see value in our life, which we often take for granted. 10 years as a couple, almost 8 years as parents, we smiled for a journey that tested and rejoiced in so many ways.

After a holiday, I always yearn a recovery holiday, but that would just be wishful!

Birthday again.. in remembrance

My words repeat... so do my sentiments... for a brother I cherish all my life. Celebrating his life on his birthday I speak with joy and sadness but with emotions that teach me everyday...

We smile, we celebrate, we relive moments gone by, we cry, we laugh, we miss, we share, we wish for another chance to have him with us again... Apr 15 is a birthday in our family - my brother s birthday.... Deepak, Deepu or Nany as most of you know him but for me .. my anna. Its been 11 years but for us time stands still ... time is not a healer just gives us enough strength to embrace life with grace and dignity... and under the circumstances I think we did fine...

Today as I look back, I am happy with the time we shared.. our relationship, our bonding had all the perfect ingredients as siblings... I fought - he made peace, I cried - he held me, we shared and cared, we loved and laughed, we were poles apart in our interests but always had a point of mutual comfort, we respected our boundaries yet looked out for each other, agreed to disagree sometimes but the one aspect we always agreed on was to always be mums rock..

With a marginal age difference our growing years seemed like a twin life... we grew with each other, for each other and about each other. We grew in the same patterns of life, entertaining our curiosities, shielding each other, gauging friendships in our parents and respecting boundaries to the parent child relationships.

He was a terrific son, brother, friend with the right persona for the defense services balanced by his passion for golf. He believed sleep was a waste of time so his every second was about 'live life to the fullest'. His love for the wheel and the thrill and ease with which he would clock speeds across long or short distances always had me thrilled. His magnetic personality always had him surrounded by umpteen friends, cousins. .... he was the force that mandate gatherings and reunions during his vacations in Bangalore. He was very generous and always ready to help... so much so we continue to hear from so many folks who share with us the impact he had on their lives and the difference he made...He loved kids and was a natural ice breaker while i used my charm on pets.. so was a pretty winning combination. He believed in excellence, quality and a lifestyle with brands. His love for colors not just in attire also reflected the joy with which he saw life. While stress, tension and getting worked up were my forte's, his mantra for life was calmness and staying stress free.

In this journey, while it was a short life.. it was a life well lived. He is missed more with every passing day as we ponder and imagine him as a husband, father, brother in law and the doting uncle to my daughters who fondly refer to him as mamu.

While destiny has its own choices, we have the joy of seeing so many shades of him in both my kids.

On your birthday... today as you turned 37.. I am thrilled that we have so many memories that we have shared... while the journey was short atleast it was one that mattered and not like so many that lack the true bonding of brothers n sisters. So here s to a perfect brother that made life count in more ways than I can imagine... may I learn to live, love and laugh in as much purity as you did. With love...

We grew like twins, my rock forever. We amused each other and protected endlessly. We cherished and lived like there was no tomorrow and am glad that's what we did. It was short, but fulfilling to think, that you made life count, without regrets and touched hearts in more ways than I can ever imagine. Today, we are surrounded by people whom you cared for and is overwhelming to hear the emotions that string so many stories. In a moment the world changed for us, but time stood still and with every passing day, as we continue to build memories, we are thrilled that you live with us in our hearts to see so many milestones!

A thousand words wont bring you back, I know because I tried,
A thousand tears wont bring you back, I know because I cried!
- Kily Dunbar

Years have passed, you are a memory for many even before Facebook had memory timelines. I have said it before and say it again, you will always be my 'today' everyday! We have grown from black and white to color, but in my heart I want to hold on to the 'endlessness' we shared in black and white.

While I will always be grateful for our time together, I know I am just being human when I say... I wish you were here. I read this somewhere and found it apt. It said "RIP means Rest In Peace" though my heart says "Return If Possible".

Every day we learn something new
We cherish and believe it all to be true
You taught me about hope and cheer
To live happily without fear!
In my heart you shine every day
Every second that's what I pray
So much of you I see in my kids today
Wish you could meet them and play.

So here's to loving, living, losing and believing that with every passing day life teaches us more, but we always find the strength in what and who we are taking along! For a brother, another year gone by, holding your hands and smiling everyday!

The bus stop girls

Day 97… #100daysofhappiness #100happydays

Its 0725 am on a weekday and I find myself repeatedly calling out for Big T to make her way with me down to the bus stop. We want to get there in time, as we both have our agendas. She races there to play with her friends at the stop and luck has it, but the child to reach last is often the den. So that’s our time keeper along with that consistent watsapp message that comes from our route admin from stop 1, which reads our action for the day “The bus just left”. My rush is to make it to avoid the school drop and get my dose of laughter that keeps my day upbeat! Monday blues seems like a passé, with the stop chats.

It’s the wait for the bus every morning at our bus stop. It’s monotonous but fun, relaxed yet alert and hilarious yet chat worthy. While I love the excitement of landing up ‘dressed up’, the presence of mums in clothes of immense comfort makes the whole ambiance so comfortable. Don’t let my note, misguide you. We are not just mums, but some dads too, who either observe, discuss the world issues or stay amused with the uproar of laughter that erupts as we mums chat away, if not, a target to bullying by all the mums. 

We are the mums who contemplated if the photos pose should reflect ‘Mums with Tums’ or ‘Mums with Bums’. After much deliberation and thought, this was our best pose to safeguard all our interests. The photo was my insistence so the reminder for these moments was true persistence.  The rush of the morning routine gets its much deserved break at the school bus stop with giggles and stories that make the heart charged for the day. There is an abundance of madness, concern, warmth and fun that brightens the gloominess of the morning. We meet every day and so their admittance in my 100 days just seemed natural.

We are not there to judge each other. Our get up in the morning is hardly a concern. The attires in this picture were specifically planned to ensure our best foot forward for the photograph. We are eager to share, and hold no hesitation groaning about motherhood. For many, we may appear to be imperfect mums, but we have the blessing of not being obsessive about our kids. We believe in normalcy and are ok with our kids combining a bit of junk and healthy in their day. We are not here aspiring to race toppers; instead we are here to nurture well rounded self respecting individuals, with a humor that will ride them through life. We are eager about routines that can keep them busy and learn from organizational perfection that mums relate to. We love our school days and dread the long drawn holidays. We look forward to summer camps, clocked by the hour if possible. We are mums who can balance the love for our homes and work all in one breath, without being embarrassed about wanting that ‘time out’ now and then. We have our lunch meets that probably disturb the neighboring tables but our unconventional conversations always has me teary eyed.

We have all not known each other too long, but time has not limited our openness. I just realized I never mentioned their names through the post, so here it is. So the next time you are looking for the streak of Jamie’s madness, Smitha’s sweetness, Pavitha’s jokes, Gunjan’s exceptional organizational skills,  and my love for these crazy ladies, then drop by at our bus stop in the morning and be cheered up! Describing them separately I will not do justice, so its best I capture our mornings at the stop.

Thursday 7 April 2016

An Easter challenge




I was looking forward to another run.. so puma urban stampede it was! The ambience was a lot different than the other runs. More serious.. It was a competition and to be specific the national finale with runners from all across India. It was inspiring and heart gripping at the same time. Time seemed to be the essence. Scores were checked by better timings.
The visual of the ticking clock, the struggling participants some of whom were carried out in stretchers, the warning on a poor terrain and the aspirational timing for a 5k being 18 mins.. awarding the winner with a trip and run at Athens.. All were perfect ingredients to making me an anxious runner.
But as it began it was me, my music and the road. I may have been outpaced at few stretches but when you run for yourself nothing bothers you. The terrain did deter my timing unfortunately as the dug up roads with uneven stones scattered made it a dangerous path to tread. It was a learning for better runs ahead. The last 300 mtrs had me tempted to just pace it and stop at the last refill point but instead I decided to make that final run. I was over the moon to reach the finish point and see mum Nimmi Belliappa Arya Ganapathy my enthusiastic kids .. the T's and Aditya Nanjappa cheering with such enthusiasm as though I had actually topped the race. Having completed with an almost satisfactory timing I am content yet ambitious to do better next time. The photo ops, the medal and the heartfelt breakfast by nature s basket at the venue.. (part of our registration) was a lovely touch.
With minor aches to remind me of the lovely run... I look forward to my next run.
Happy Easter everyone!

Phenomenal Woman on Women's Day



Happy Women's Day to all women there whose strength never ceases to amaze me, whose heart's always impress and whose intelligence can fascinate. We are not here to be judged, we are here to speak the unspoken. We have the voice and the passion that believes in our philosophies. We can dare to dream and make them lasting memories. We can shadow and lead with grace yet feel on top of the world. We can see perfection in confusion. We can multitask roles in sheer brilliance. We choose to be part of relationships that complete our heart. We make homes. We set new benchmarks for our peers in careers cause we know the meaning of healthy competition. We can speak endlessly but all in sense. We can shop in calmness and feel rejuvenated. We have tears that keep us real in happy and sad times. We have the wings to circle the world and always have something new to learn at any stage of life. We have fears, phobias but we do our might to face it with confidence.
Put your hand up in the air
Whether you standing or sitting on a chair.
The brilliance of women is radiant like the sun,
Our perfection is never a pun.
So clap your hands and cheer away
As you celebrate Women’s Day.
We don't need a special day to celebrate womanhood.. so let's make today about love, safety, aspirations, values, accomplishments and honor. It's the life of a 'Phenomenal Woman' as reflected by Maya Angelou which I am quoting once again. Happy Women's Day!
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room,
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand,
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

The Maya Angelou birthday tribute!

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou



Such fitting lines to capture the reason I write this post today on your birthday Munni. You gave me reason to smile, when darkness loomed, you gave me my quiet, when everyone believed that sound would be my best companion, you gave me your ears, for the times I chose to speak, you taught me with example, what it means to be believe in ourselves. Thank you and everyone at home in Pune for being my reason to always cherish Pune. Most of you know her, but if you don’t, a snapshot of what I have seen invaluable in her.
Her eyes smile and her heart rejoices. There is laughter, tears, anger but there is patience, calm and cheer too. She is a doting mother, loving daughter, adored sister; fun sister in law, dependable friend and somehow perfects all these roles. Not to forget these folks do justice to the relationship too.. so here's a huge shout with lots of love to Uncle, Pushpa Hegde aunty, Katya Balasubramanian, Bunty, Bungu and Sangeetha. I have known her forever, and gets better with every time I get to spend my time with her. It’s easy to chat, yet not be judged, we can laugh till late night and ponder over time gone by. She is a strong mother, yet emotional in the same breath. She is a role model to 2 wonderful angels and a friend to them too – a rare combination parents struggle to balance with. She balances her work and charities with such passion. She is vibrant, health conscious and the reason I took to running. It could be a party, art exhibition, shopping, or just fun travels, but her heart is happiest when Inika and Ahana are by her side.
She deeply admires my favorite writer too Maya Angelou, so today here’ s an excerpt from my favorite poem, to the ‘phenomenal woman’ I have seen in our very dear Rakhi, whom we fondly call Munni. With Women’s day round the corner, this couldn’t be quoted at a better time! Cheers to you Munni for a fabulous birthday and a wonderful life ahead. May you build memories to laugh, have moments to shed a tear and keep life real and yet be strong to look at life in the face with confidence! May you always have everyone who only loves you..to be by your side and may each day always count.
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room,
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand,
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Run for Women's Day





Another day to remember in my 100 days...

Perfect Women's Day celebration..
With the woman who truly inspires n encourages me in every way.. my mommy Nimmi Belliappa...an early rewarding and thrilling 5k in 38 mins..followed by a hearty my kind of breakfast at Bet You Will Like It. Celebration indeed! Cheers completed with the excited welcome by the very supportive hubby Arya Ganapathy and my bundles of rejoice.. The Lil munchkins Tamara and Tanaaya who couldn't stop raving! Timing needs to improve but gradually smile emoticon
Don't let the pose fool you... I did not place no 1.. In the crowd that participated... but in my heart I felt like no 1.. so that counted more! So striking the pose was just a heart's response smile emoticon
This was my 3rd run and the feeling remains unchanged. .. A check on my health and it's progress is always on agenda. There is confidence yet there is nervousness, there is thrill yet there is painful exhaustion, there is determination yet there is caution.. guess that's the difference you experience in life pacing the journey from young and fearless to growing older with surprising woes. The heart believes in the passion, which often worries our loved ones. Nevertheless I am thrilled it's been a fantastic day.
Just like the placard says.. I ran for my world ...truly!
Hope you have a day as exciting as mine!